Is It Ever Okay For Women to be the Initiators?

I’ve always believed that women should not initiate anything with men. Anything! Whether it’s a first kiss, first text or first *bow-chicka-wow-wow*, I’ve felt that it is a guy’s responsibility to kick things off. As I’ve grown older and gathered a bit more dating experience, my opinion has shifted. I’m starting to think that this concept of men being the initiators and women the receivers, is a bit outdated?

HERE’S WHY

1. Men Get Nervous Too. Oftentimes, we take a man’s silence as indication that he’s not interested. That’s not always the case. Some guys are just as jittery as girls are when it comes to dating. If a guy hasn’t contacted you right off the bat, he may just be scared and working himself up to reaching out. To take things even further, he may see YOUR silence as an indication that YOU’RE not interested. That’s fair. My advice is to throw a line out there to see if he bites. If he does? Great! Take him down to London Town. If he doesn’t? That’s fine. Simply move along and go after the next fish. At least you’ll know that you did your part.

2. No More Stigma. There is no longer a stigma associated with women initiators. Back in the day, women who pursued men were seen as “manly” or “desperate” (Although, some of y’all ARE both. Let’s keep it real!). That is no longer the case! Carrie Bradshaw and the rest of the Sex in the City gang helped us discover that it’s okay to be a woman that goes after what she wants. I think that the modern day man is actually impressed by this type of take charge woman. It shows him that she’s not lacking in strength or confidence.